Kiran and her boyfriend Rick are fifteen years old and in grade ten. They have been dating for several months and spend most of their time together. They care about each other and trust each other very much. A few months into their relationship, Kiran and Rick felt ready to begin having a sexually intimate relationship.
Kiran has a lot of questions about sex and the emotions that she is feeling but she has only discussed her relationship with her peers at school. She has not told her parents or her doctor about her sexual relationship. She is afraid that if she tells her parents she will get in trouble. She also believes that she cannot see a doctor without her parents’ permission and if she does see a doctor, she is afraid they will tell her parents what they have discussed.
Since Kiran has not spoken with a doctor, she is not using any methods of birth control, (such as the birth control pill) other than condoms. Both Rick and Kiran are shy and embarrassed to buy condoms in the store, so they only use condoms when Rick asks his older brother.
This month Kiran missed her period and thinks she might be pregnant. She and her friend go to the pharmacy and purchase a pregnancy test. When she takes the test she sees a positive result, indicating that she is pregnant. Kiran is overwhelmed, scared and doesn’t know what to do next. What are her options? What are her rights?
There are two parts to Kiran’s decision-making about the pregnancy: medical decisions, and non-medical decisions (like adoption, involving Rick in the pregnancy, and supporting a baby). Last week’s post covered Kiran’s medical rights and decisions – today’s post is about her non-medical decisions and providing care for a baby. This post does not include information about receiving financial support, such as government benefits or child support, for a baby.
If Kiran decides to carry her fetus to term, there are a number of decisions to consider. She will have to think about whether she wants to raise a baby or put the baby up for adoption, what kind of parenting the baby will have, and how the baby will be supported. While Kiran is pregnant, Rick has no legal rights to be involved with her pregnancy. After the baby is born, both parents have legal rights regarding the baby.
Adoption: Legal Issues
If Kiran and Rick both do not want to raise the baby, they have the option of putting the baby up for adoption. In an adoption, another person or people will raise the baby, and take on the legal responsibilities relating to the baby. In Ontario, both parents must give their consent in order for an adoption to occur – this means that Kiran and Rick must both agree that an adoption is the right decision for them and for the baby. The baby must be at least one week old before they can make this decision, and since both parents are under 18, a government lawyer (called the Children’s Lawyer) must confirm that each one understands the decision he or she is making and genuinely wants to give consent.
After Rick and Kiran have given their consent for an adoption, they may still change their minds and withdraw consent for up to 21 days following the initial decision. Sometimes this time can be extended, but only if the baby has not yet been placed for adoption.
When the baby is put up for adoption, the Children’s Aid Society or a licensed private agency will take responsibility for placing the baby and ensuring that its new home and parents will be able to care well for it. Kiran and Rick will still have input into what kind of home they would like the baby to be placed in, but it is the family that will best meet the needs of the baby that will be chosen as the adoptive parent(s). The only exception to this is if a relative, like Kiran’s parents, choose to adopt the baby.
After an adoption, biological parents like Kiran and Rick are normally not involved in the baby’s life and they will not have access to the baby. Sometimes, adoptive parents will agree to an “openness agreement.” This agreement would allow Kiran and/or Rick to communicate with the adoptive parents, or to share pictures or letters as the child grows up. However, the details of this agreement would have to be negotiated, and the adoptive parents are the ones who have full legal rights to the child. Kiran and Rick can also make decisions about whether and how their biological child can contact them in the future as an adult.
Custody and Access: Legal Issues
If Kiran decides to raise the baby, she will have to work with Rick to make decisions about “custody” and “access.” Having custody of a child means having the right to make important decisions about raising the child – things like school, religion, and health care. One or both parents can have custody, but if a parent does not have custody, he or she may still have access to the child. This means that both parents get to see the baby and have a relationship with it. A parent who does not have custody also has the right to access custody-related information about the child, even if he or she doesn’t have the right to make those decisions.
Kiran will have to work with Rick, preferably with the help of a lawyer, to make decisions about custody and access. There are many possibilities for arranging custody and access, but the most important thing to consider is the best interest of the baby. For example, this could mean that the baby will live at Kiran’s house and spend the most time with Kiran if she is breast-feeding. Rick would come to Kiran’s to visit the baby. This arrangement could change as the baby grew older. It is very rare that the court will refuse to allow one parent access to his or her child, although it is possible to put conditions on parental access. As always, the most important thing is the child’s best interest.
When Kiran and Rick have agreed about access and custody, they will sign agreements that contain their decisions. It is possible for Kiran and Rick to raise the baby without written custody and access agreements, but having these agreements will make sure that everyone knows who is responsible for what and who has what rights, so that arguments will be less likely. When there is a written agreement, it can be enforced by a court. In order to change custody and access decisions, the written agreement must also be changed.
If Rick and Kiran cannot agree about custody and access, they may work with a mediator. A mediator is someone who helps work through disagreements in order to achieve a result that both parents are happy with. If they are still unable to agree, they may go to court, where a judge will make an order about custody and access. Both Rick and Kiran will have to follow the judge’s order. If they want to change the order, they will have to go back to court.
Caring for a baby: When would CAS get involved?
Raising a baby can be scary for young parents, since they have a lot of new responsibilities. While young people can be great parents and take good care of their new baby, sometimes there is concern about whether the baby is getting all the care and support that it needs. In this situation, a Children’s Aid Society (CAS) or another child welfare organization will become involved with the family. Since Kiran and Rick are teen parents, CAS may become involved with them and their baby right from the birth. If Kiran or Rick was ever involved with CAS before, this is more likely to happen.
If CAS is concerned about Kiran and Rick’s baby, they will investigate. There are certain rules that they must follow in this investigation in order to make a decision about what should happen next. They may decide that they do not need to be involved with the family, or that the family needs extra support. They may also decide that the baby is in need of protection, in which case they can remove the baby from Kiran or Rick’s care. As in the case of custody and access, the most important consideration will be the best interests of the child.
If the baby is removed from its parents, there will be a child protection hearing in court soon after. At this hearing, the court will make a decision about next steps. The court will only keep the baby from Kiran and Rick if the court believes the baby is likely to suffer harm and can’t be protected through other means, like putting conditions on the parents’care.
If CAS becomes involved with Kiran and Rick, it is very important for them to have legal support. Sometimes CAS involvement can lead to a parent’s right of custody and access being terminated completely. Kiran and Rick should each contact a lawyer to help them understand and protect heir parental rights throughout CAS’s involvement.
Having a baby is an important and life-changing decision, and there are lots of legal issues involved with raising a child as a young person or a person who is not living with the child’s other parent. If you have specific questions or a personal situation, you should contact a lawyer for legal advice. If you are a young person in Ontario and you need a lawyer to represent you, you can call Legal Aid Ontario: (416)598-0200, 1-800-668-8258 (outside GTA), or Justice for Children and Youth (416) 920-1633, 1-866-999-5329 (outside GTA)